It’s that time of year again. The dream is relaxed time with family and friends over lovely meals, sitting by the fireplace, sipping hot cider, playing games, etc.
The reality is often frenetic running around, last minute gift buying, frustrating times in traffic, disappointment over gifts, frustrating interactions with family members, etc.
Like anything else in life, a little planning and strategizing can go a long way to improving our experience and outcomes.
As you stare down the next 4 weeks ahead of you, what are the 3 things that would be most refreshing for you? This can be for you personally, you as a couple or you as a family.
When can you schedule those 3 things so that they happen?
What safeguards can you put in place so that those 3 things happen?
Let’s talk about the biggest stressors. What are they for you? Is it Uncle XXX? Perhaps it is buying gifts when finances are tight. Maybe it’s all the expected socializing and you are firmly on the introvert end of the spectrum.
What are your 3 biggest stresses?
We can’t change other people but we can strategize around how they are likely to be and what we need for boundaries and limits for ourselves.
What is 1 thing you can do around each of your 3 biggest stresses?
Who can support you with each of those 3 strategies and stressors?
Let me remind you about love languages again - words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, touch and acts of service. How do you need to be loved most right now? What does your partner need most right now. Remember gifts don’t have to all be material.
What a great time too to prepare for 2020. Start pondering your perfect 2020 vision :)
Short and sweet today - may your holidays be filled with quality connection with your favorite people!
Until next time,
The Luv Life Coach
Marilyn Orr, MA, CEC, PCC is a relationship coach with Luv Life Coaching, passionate about equipping couples with the tools for real and lasting intimacy. Learn how to listen better, handle conflict in productive ways and bring out the best in your partner. Contact Marilyn and grow your Luv Life skills today!
Marilyn is hosting her next Couples Workshop on Saturday, February 8th at The Cedars Ranch. To find out more and to register, click here: Couples Workshop at The Cedars Ranch
"I highly recommend this workshop. My partner and I definitely left with a strengthened bond." ~ Couples Workshop Attendee
Posted on Thu, December 5, 2019
by Marilyn Orr filed under