Recently I was in line at a checkout and couldn’t resist a magazine. The whole magazine is about laughter.
How much have you been laughing lately?
How often do you laugh yourselves silly as a couple?
There are so many great articles out there on the benefits, physical and emotional, to laughing. Here’s an example: The Health Benefits of Humor and Laughter
I sure know that what makes Bill laugh doesn’t always make me laugh and vice-versa. More than once I’ve heard “How can you not find that funny?”. Now that, I find funny. There have been plenty of times when I’m in a fit of giggles, barely breathing when he doesn’t even know what set me off.
Humor is unique but what a bond it forms when we have an intense laugh with a friend or our partner. Beyond all the health benefits we know happen personally there is just something great for your intimacy when we laugh together (and not at each other, ideally).
During high school I was part of a group of other teenagers that got together regularly. We put on skits for each other, played games and supported each other, it was very rich. One of the games we played comes to mind as I write this.
One person would lay on the floor and the next person would lay down but putting their head on the first person’s stomach. The next on the second person’s stomach etc. until everyone was laying down with their head on someone else’s stomach. Then, you just wait. Someone would start to laugh. It never took long. Once they did it was totally infectious. It went around the group in no time.
Simple but hilarious every time.
So many of us have a fantastic wellness plan in place in our lives. We eat well, we exercise, count our steps, try to get enough sleep. How about laughing?
The low hanging fruit is always funny videos on YouTube but there are so many options. One thing I love about my sons is that they love to hear family stories.
When do you have family story time? (There are so many great resources on-line if you want to improve your storytelling skills - https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/now-you-can-learn-storytelling-from-the-best-in-the-business-absolutely-free.html )
Here’s my challenge to you - make a list of what makes you laugh as a couple. Maybe it’s a game you play, maybe it’s a show, perhaps you have a joke contest with each other. Your way will be unique!
Yes, laughter is spontaneous but we also need to make sure we are getting enough of it and planning to let it do its magic in our bodies, souls and relationships!
Have a happy time with your homework!
Marilyn Orr, The Luv Life Coach
Marilyn Orr, MA, CEC, PCC is a relationship coach with Luv Life Coaching, passionate about equipping couples with the tools for real and lasting intimacy.
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Posted on Thu, July 26, 2018
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