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    Highly Effective Couples

    Obviously “highly effective” is not what we aim for when thinking about our partner. This is business language “highly effective team”, etc. Let’s steal from business ideas though, again, for our relationships.A common team building activity is to make use of personality or behavioral style assessments and share results with each other.   Read More...

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    5 Ways To Support Each Other’s Dreams

    So, I’m sitting on a plane talking with this very inspiring young man. What a great chance to ask “what do you think couples need support with?”. As a coach, I love his answer.   Read More...

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    Sweet or Not So Sweet? Questioning Your Relationship Health

    What is it that defines a relationship as healthy? Is it a lack of fighting? How about how close and in touch with each other as a sign of health? The very difficult part of knowing if your relationship is unhealthy or not is that the unhealthy version differs in subtle ways that often creep in over time. What can feel charming and endearing at first can become painful and controlling. I’ve included links to 3 articles at the bottom of this blogpost. They all list signs ...  Read More...

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    6 Practices To Safeguard Your Relationship

    Life is good! You are in love, your relationship is not work, it just flows and spending time together is easy. You are living with your best friend.I hope this all reads true for you, but keeping this or getting back to this is not all easy.What comes easy when we are falling in love takes work and intention as our relationship ages and life gets busy.What are some practices and habits that can protect or re-enliven your relationship as the years pass by?1) Date Night: There is the good old sta...  Read More...

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    2 Steps To Combat Blame In Relationship

    We’ve all done it. We’ve all made sure that someone else knows that a problem was most definitely caused by them.As Brené Brown puts it: Blame is simply the discharging of discomfort and pain.Blame may relieve some emotional discomfort short term but it is not productive in the long-term or in any other way. It leads to disconnection and what we long for, what we need for well-being is deep healthy connection.So what are the options?Let’s talk about a great foundation for dealing with frustratio...  Read More...

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    Thoughts On Loving Well

    Some things we all have the same answer to. “Do you want to be happy?” is one of those questions. We all want happiness.   Read More...

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    The Relationship Power Tool of Listening

    Recently, during a lunch with a very ‘coach-like’ friend of mine I got to hear my husband answer her very creative question.“How have you changed since you got married to each other 8 years ago?”I think Bill’s answer gives us the best goal posts possible for lasting emotional intimacy.He said: ‘Well, I’ve learned how to be loved, how to let myself be loved, and I’ve learned to love myself better.’Wow.I have to tell you, being married to someo...  Read More...

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    Romance Hacks For Valentine's Day & Beyond

    It’s almost February. You know what that means. Valentine’s Day is not far away.Some of you are likely dreading it.   Read More...

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    Undoing Shame

    There is a powerful force at work in many of our lives and it brings damage to many relationships. Shame. If you are living life through a lens of shame it WILL negatively impact your relationship!Let’s define it in really practical terms, then look at how it affects our partnerships.Shame is the thinking and feeling that we have when we see ourselves as ‘less than’ or inadequate in some way.   Read More...

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    5 Reasons Pre-Marital Coaching is Like Working Out

    So often we think of counseling as appropriate for when something is broken or in crisis. This is not the case with pre-marital counseling or coaching.So, for starters, what is pre-marital? It comes in many forms - it may be classes you take with a few other couples, either through an organization that specializes in this or through a faith community.   Read More...

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    Enmeshment in Relationship

    You may not be that couple that wears matching pajamas and jackets but you love how much you think alike. Maybe you are that couple that proves that “opposites attract”. Wherever you are on that spectrum there are some important principles to consider.In Psychology we talk about this continuum using words like: independence, co-dependence, inter-dependence, enmeshment, emotional abandonment, etc.How much alike or different we are from our partner is really not the issue.   Read More...

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