As the owner of a soon-to-be wellness center I get asked often “What kind of wellness?”
What is wellness? It is so many things! It may be one of those topics that thinking about the flip side makes it easier to answer. We know when we don’t have it.
Wellness is physical, spiritual, relational, emotional, financial, etc.
My husband Bill and I included supporting each other’s wellness in our wedding vows. We use our vows literally like permanent permission to encourage good choices for and by each other.
That might mean supporting your partner going for a run when you’d love them to watch a movie with you instead. It might mean encouraging them to have friend time.
Today though I want to focus on food. What we eat, how we eat, when we eat and where we eat all impact our overall wellness and our relationships.
I’m visiting in Canada right now and Canada just celebrated “Eat Together Day” sponsored by a large grocery chain. What? Yes, we have become cultures of isolation. Meals have become something we do in the car or while working at our desk or standing at the kitchen counter.
This clip provides 2.5 minutes of wonderful inspiration! Give yourself the gift of watching!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vDuA9OPyp6I
How many meal times do you think you will spend with your partner?
What we are eating influences our overall health, our energy levels, the prevention or treatment of many diseases, hormone production and mood stability, etc.
What we eat has big implications for relationship wellness not only because it is core to our physical wellbeing but because eating together over a great meal, with time to talk and connect is so powerful for friendship and intimacy!
One of our favorite things to do as a couple is to start our evening with a few healthy hors d’oeuvres and a glass of wine and then make supper together. That is a luxury that some of you would only have on weekends. What could your equivalent be as a couple?
Food is so connected to our emotional health. We eat to celebrate, we often eat to deal with stress, sometimes we can’t eat when we are upset (sadly, I’ve never had this version, lol).
How can we make use of meals to benefit our emotional well-being together?
Let’s focus for a minute on what we eat. I survived childhood by eating peanut butter and jam sandwiches. Of the 3 vegetables I would eat only 2 that had any nutritional value for me. Eating well has been a life-long learning curve for me.
Being preachy about how you should live your life is something I never want to do. What I am committed to doing in this space, and as a coach, is expose you to thought-provoking ideas and questions that hopefully encourage your growth.
On this idea of food and it’s incredible impact on our lives we finally watched “The Magic Pill”. It is a very well done thought-provoking documentary. (It is on Netflix or iTunes. The link to the trailer is below.)
“What if most modern diseases are really just symptoms of the same problem? The Magic Pill follows doctors, patients, scientists, chefs, farmers and journalists from around the globe who are combating illness through a paradigm shift in eating.”
Trailer link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lMEBUrfP5UI
My invitation to you today is to find ways to truly support each other in steps towards lasting, vibrant wellness!
What could be 3 things that you support your partner with in the next week?
Until next time,
Marilyn Orr, The Luv Life Coach
Marilyn Orr, MA, CEC, PCC is a relationship coach with Luv Life Coaching, passionate about equipping couples with the tools for real and lasting intimacy.
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